Unfortunately, since Dave is so busy with school, you only get to hear from me for now. I don't know what's gotten into me the last couple days, but I guess it's just that I don't see Dave or anyone else all day, so I have all of this stuff inside of me that just needs to be said! Anyway, I forgot to mention in my post about the baby's room that I am now 35 weeks, which means I only have 5 weeks left until my due date. That seems really really soon. And yet, at the same time, I don't feel like I'm 35 weeks pregnant. Amazingly, until about a month or so ago, there were still people in the ward who had no idea I was pregnant. So I don't really feel like I've swallowed a watermelon or anything. I can still get around just fine, I can still tie my shoes (a little differently than I used to, but still, I can do it). So all in all, it really hasn't been bad. Although, I have come to a conclusion. It is my firm belief that women like to complain. I don't know why, but they do. Or maybe it's just that every woman feels a need to "one-up" the next woman with her stories. I wish I had a dollar for every time someone told me a horror story about being pregnant that has not happened to me. For example, I do not feel like a beached whale, nor do I waddle. I also haven't had any food aversions or bad reactions to smells. I understand these are probably things that I've just been lucky about, and I know that lots of women can't avoid them. However, there are things that women can control. I have had absolutely no cravings for food that weren't normal sort of wants for normal food. There were no midnight runs to the store to get me something weird, nor were there any weird food combinations that I suddenly liked. I'm also not an emotional wreck, nor have I suddenly gone crazy. But I know there are women out there that swear they always wanted to eat (fill in the blank) and couldn't live without it and made their husbands go out in the middle of the night to get it. Or that they suddenly liked (fill in the blank) with (fill in the blank). Or that the hormones made them go crazy. However, it is my firm belief that they consciously made the decision to want something that they "absolutely had to have" when in reality, just eating anything at all would have made it go away. The combination of foods is probably just your body's way of telling you you're deficient in something. And people eat weird food combinations all the time anyway, even if they're not pregnant. As for the hormones.........well, let's just suffice it to say that no matter how you feel on the inside, you are the only one who decides how you're going to act.
So my conclusion is this: women use the pregnancy excuse to behave badly.
But, just keep in mind that I'm not trying to offend anyone here. I'm just trying to account for the fact that I think a lot of the stories about pregnancy may have been............overexaggerated.
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Or, perhaps, pregnancy effects women differently. That is a perfectly good explanation. I worked with a woman who is homicidal and suicidal when she is NOT pregnant, but perfectly sane when she is...so her husbands solution to her mental health needs was to keep her pregnant. 15 years and 13 children later she went to the mental hospital. I also know women who have to be on bed rest for three months (which never happened to me, but still happens). Women's bodies are different so they respond differently to pregnancy. I agree that in some sense it is used as an excuse, but that doesn't mean that weird things don't happen to some people. I'm sorry if I am sounding a little defensive, but I can still remember what it feels like to throw up on someone's front lawn, in a parking lot, on the side of the road, etc. I'm sure I would have had a different pregnancy experience (specifically in regards to the sickness) if I was able to sleep more and not have to go into homes with feces on the walls and the smell of rotten food and body odor everywhere. I think you should consider yourself to be lucky to have such an easy pregnancy. And, hopefully you will have an easy baby too! But don't forget that everyone is different and might have a different experience!
I actually tried to avoid the actual physical aspects of it, like the sickness, which I know happens a lot and sometimes doesn't, but you can't do anything about it. It's not a decision you make. I also know that it's different for everyone. But I was mostly trying to account for things which were concious decisions - like making your husband go out in the middle of the night to get you something you were "craving". So really, I do understand (I was sick myself), but hopefully that makes it a little clearer.
Yeah, I know what you mean about that. I never experienced those cravings for weird foods, and I never woke up in the middle of the night demanding something, so it does seem a little selfish. But I am glad you are having such a great pregnancy experience...I kind of feel like mine was pretty easy (but Dan might disagree with me on that due to my moodiness at night). Anyway...I can't wait to meet your little one! And I can't believe you are already 35 weeks! I guess time goes faster when we don't see you...
holy cow i can't believe you only have about a month left! that's so exciting! When do we get to see prego pictures of you??? i totally love that you just said what was on your mind! i had a pretty easy pregnancy except for the weight that i gained, but it was totally my fault cuz i just ate constantly!! never made karl go out during the night, but i really started liking sausage and cookie dough ice cream (not together though-sausage for breakfast only and the ice cream after work)! I never got sick while pregnant, just nauseous so I feel really lucky about that! I am so excited for you and can't wait to see pics of your new little one! do we have a name for her yet??
I was one of those lucky ones who really enjoyed being pregnant. I didn't get sick much and I felt good pretty much the whole time. I totally agree that women can't control how pregnancy makes them feel physically, but there are some who make everything more dramatic than necessary. Those are often the people that are overly dramatic anyway. The food cravings seem to be a bit over the top too. I craved stuff but never so much that I thought I would die if someone didn't go get it for me.
The thing that I've always found most annoying is the need that many women feel to top someone else's story. "You were in labor for 12 hours? Well, I was in labor for 24 hours!". Who cares! Also the need they feel to give advice when it's not wanted. Or to tell you how you'll feel. When I was pregnant, a woman at work told me that I'd change my mind about an epidural once I was in labor. I find that so annoying. She didn't have any idea about what I could handle or what I had prepared myself for. I hate that people think they know everything!! For the record, I didn't have an epidural or anything else and I did great! Take that, naysayers! You don't know everything after all!
Ok...I just had to get that out. It still annoys me. That doesn't go away after you have the baby either. There will always be someone who thinks they know what to do better than you. Take advice from the people you trust and ignore the others politely.
Mmmm...watermelon sounds so good right now. Anyone want to go get that for me? (No, I'm not pregnant)
Thank you Shelbee! I have also had people tell me that I'll change my mind when the time comes. Maybe they just don't know how stubborn the Jenson women are.... They were asking me when my due date was and I told them I would be happy to wait a couple of weeks after it to make it more convenient for Dave (he has finals), and they basically told me I was an idiot and I would change my mind. It made me mad too.
Jenson women are stubborn and can do anything they set their minds to do!! I loved being pregnant once the sick part was past, and it didn't really bother me at all that the baby was usually about 10 days late!
Yep, I was fine with Gavin being a week overdue. I was due on a Monday and worked until the Friday after when they finally told me they didn't want to chance me going into labor at work. I had him early the next monday morning. Things all work out.
Brooke, I feel your pain. People that say things like that drive me crazy! You will most likely be more uncomfortable towards the end, but it's not unbearable in most situations. I say let your body go when it's good and ready and don't be too eager to hurry it along. The only thing that should change that is some big medical reason that would necessitate the baby being born right away.
Show those people how stubborn and determined we are!
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